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  • in reply to: atten resa #5285561 Report Abuse
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    As a CNA I know first hand what you deal with on a daily basis. Nobody should be expected to try and deal with this alone. I have one man that the wife is there almost daily, and volunteers to help with activities. She is a sweetheart. Somedays we have to call her on the phone so he can talk to her because he gets grumpy. He doesn’t remember that she just left a half-hour before and was there most of the day. We just tell him that she just went home to get some supper and will be back tomorrow. We have another guy that can’t remember more than 5 minutes. His wife come about once a week or so. Life isn’t fair, but there are moments that are priceless, and you need to remember the beautiful part. Make a memory book for him. Pictures of you two together, your kids, your relatives and friends. This way you can jog his memory with a picture if he struggles to remember. Maybe put in something about his job, hobbies, things that will jog a memory and/or a conversation starter for his caregivers.

    Once he is settled into the facility, YOU and he will have to learn a new normal. You will need to re-learn how to think; you will eventually learn to sleep soundly again; you won’t have to live in fear of his safety, dread lost things, or worry about leaving to go do something; he’ll be safe.

    We have residents that wear wanderguards 24/7, so they can’t walk out of the facility without someone knowing. An alarm would go off alerting the staff that he has gone through an outside door or is near one. If he is very mobile he may need one of these if he shows signs of elopement, or if he says things about walk away on his own. This is a normal occurrence with people with Alzheimers. These are for his own safety. If they mention he might need a bracelet, be prepared for it. Better safe than sorry.

    God BLESS YOU for loving him enough to let him go to this facility and to remove the stress from your time together so you can enjoy each other.


    in reply to: hummingbirds gone? #5285504 Report Abuse
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    I haven’t had any all summer. I just put my feeder UP, and have had at least 2 female regulars, maybe three. I don’t think they will be staying as late this year. We are approaching freezing temps. and that will kill flowers. The lowest temps. so far that I know was someone said 34º

     


    in reply to: Tuesday in the Midwest September 16 #5285496 Report Abuse
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    Hi All, Work wasn’t too bad. I went down to the south wing first and all I did was chart on one person for the girl that was leaving to go to the unit. I talked to one resident but spent the rest of the time putting a puzzle together at the nurses desk with another resident. Wow, I got paid to put a puzzle together, sad. I discovered 3 of us in a row didn’t know a thing about the people we were supposed to be caring for; really sad in my opinion. I had left a message for Amy that I was coming in, but found out that she hasn’t had that number in a long time, so that message was useless. She didn’t know I was coming in to help, so she was all smiles when she saw me walking down the hall. She got to go have supper. I scurried to get people down to supper. We got ANOTHER new resident. This person is there because they didn’t like the last home they were  at; they may be disappointed with this place also. The -itch came in at 6 and didn’t move too fast; she’s sick. I feel NO sympathy for her. Maybe this is payback for her attitude and the other two that are being bitchy; all three bitches are sick at the same time. LOL could I be so lucky? I was supposed to be gone at 9, but finally swiped out at 9:30. I have to work with her for 4 days in a row and tomorrow is with the bitch. This should be just a party. I might be a bitch by Friday also. I’m hoping that they put Amy down for most of the hours these people are picking up, so I don’t have to work with them so much. Sorry rant over.

    Lair, I was sorry to read that you lost your Bougainvillea  after 17 years. I had a Christmas cactus that came from a branch my mom gave me the day before my DD was born. It got really big; when she passed away I think my mind went into seclusion. I eventually ended up losing it a few years later. That’s the only plant that I’ve ever lost that really hurt. I don’t like killing plants and orchids seem to be my specialty.

    Carol, I hope the cars all get back home soon and life gets back to ‘normal’.

    Well, gotta go, will check back later.


    in reply to: I HAD IT AND WAS THROUGH! #5285323 Report Abuse
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    As someone that works as a CNA in a nursing home, and has to do some of the therapy that is handed down by the therapists, it’s done for a reason. They’re following orders, so don’t bite their heads off. Some is done just for maintenance, to keep up your strength so you don’t lose mobility. Some is done to improve mobility. Some is done just because the government makes them do it. I do know that some of this stuff is “ordered” by a dr. or therapist, because if it isn’t, you would have to foot the whole bill for your stay out of your own pocket. Apparently the government thinks people getting out of the hospital after a surgery want to use a nursing home as a vacation motel. If the dr. or therapy people write down that you need some “strengthening” therapy and are doing it, then the government (Obamacare) says, okay we’ll pick up the tab for this stay “because he needed it”. I know about this first hand because we have a man right now at the nursing home that wouldn’t do the therapy and the nurse talked to him and told him that if he refused to do the therapy then medicare? wouldn’t pay for his stay there. He finally started doing it, but it was too little effort too late. Now we have to use the E-Z Stand to move him to the bathroom; he can’t walk with a walker anymore. I don’t think he’ll ever be able to go home now.

    My only words of caution: be very careful when you want to stand up and after you get up. If you’ve been laying down: sit up and give yourself time, just a moment, to get your bearings & balance. When you go to stand up, do the same, be sure you give yourself a moment to get your balance. You don’t want to fall because you got dizzy from standing up to fast. This is a common issue with people getting up too fast, they get dizzy and fall. You just went through a MAJOR operation, so be very careful. I don’t know if you have a walker or cane, but use it to keep yourself stable so you don’t lose your balance or get off balance.


    in reply to: Monday in the Midwest #5285132 Report Abuse
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    Well, my day off will not be off. I got a call asking if I could work the short shift on my wing. I said yes because Amy is working today, and she picked up both days this weekend to help me out, so I wouldn’t get left being all alone. I’m returning the favor; I’m working 5-9. Then I got another call later asking if I could work South. I told her I have never worked South. She said it was only for an hour. The South girl has to go work in the Unit at 4, and the one that’s working the rest of the shift on South is working at another nursing home. She will come right from that job over to this one, but she can’t get back to town until 5.

    I just hope that I get the $5/hr. incentive pay, but I doubt it. This will put me into OT by the end of the week.

    DS & family will be getting here on Thursday afternoon and leaving on Fri. for her parent’s house 20 miles away. They have 2 weddings this weekend, so they will be at her parents Sat. & Sun. She hasn’t seen them in a couple months. Yup, I can share. DS said Brylie is crawling everywhere, so baby gates are now on the list of things to buy.


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    Is her name Makayla and does she have other singing videos on youtube.com?


    in reply to: Red Bugs or Chiggers….. #5285084 Report Abuse
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    You might want to consult a dr. about those blisters, because they are NOT small. If they break it will be an easy spot to get infection.


    in reply to: Monday in the Midwest #5285067 Report Abuse
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    Hi All, It rained? here or sprinkled. I saw a small, female hummer at the feeder. Appears to be one from this year, not real bright on how to eat from a feeder. She eventually figured it out, and then buried her short little beak. She looks so chubby; I think that she isn’t used to carrying that much weight, but she needs her ‘baby’ fat to fly south. I hope someone takes her with them.

    Work was stupid again. I had great people to work with. Amy was scheduled for 2-6 and the -itch was supposed to work until 6-10. I took my break and Amy didn’t because she was SUPPOSED to leave at 6. We were sitting at the feeder tables and I went back at 6:10 to our wing; the -itch never showed up. Amy called the scheduler, told her she hadn’t showed up. Come to find out, she used white out and took her name off the paper the night before, and didn’t tell anyone. She WAS there at 10 to work. Amy never got a supper break. I told her to eat some snacks from our cache for the residents. We have bread, butter, jelly, and peanut butter in the staff lounge. She didn’t have any food, or money to buy any or a vehicle to go get any. I think it was more that she didn’t want to leave the two of us for a half-hour while putting people to bed. We didn’t know the -itch wasn’t going to show up. I told the scheduler she better start giving Amy the hours, because she shows up.

    Lair, I don’t have a south or west window to put my hibiscus in, so what do I do then?

    Carol, Leroy, and All to follow have a great day.

    I’m off to the dentist for a filling.


    in reply to: Testing 123 (for Nickle 98) #5284718 Report Abuse
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    ILUV, If you copy the link to ANY other post on here and put it in your post, POOF, it makes your post disappear.

    I’ve had this happen numerous times, and I did mention it to Jill.


    in reply to: WHY! Is Life So Unfair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #5284630 Report Abuse
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    Resa, There are no words of comfort that will remove this pain. Nobody said life was fair, just that it would be worth it. What a blessing it was that your DS found her and she found him. If they both had bad marriages at least they did get a chance to experience true happiness, even if it was only for a short time; a miracle indeed. We can hear and read your pain and heartache, please know that we are all hurting right along with you because we can’t do anything to fix this or to comfort you. You know we would all hug you in person if we could. Hug a pillow and scream into it; we will all be that pillow and let you scream and cry. Now is when you need to let Jesus carry you. Ask Him for peace and to help you get through this. Cry on His shoulder.

    Things happen for a reason; we just aren’t able to understand why sometimes. Everyone has a purpose and a reason for being here on this earth. This is why we are told to enjoy the moments that we have with our families and friends. We just don’t know how many more moments we’ll get. You have that picture and that memory of a very special day, hold tight to it.

    {{{HUGS}}}

     


    in reply to: How long do you wait #5284440 Report Abuse
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    It was 38º outside this morning, and it had to be really cold in here, because I’m the one that turned it on. DH went down to make sure everything worked okay. When he and the cat agree it’s cold in here, that means it’s really chilly in here. We went out for breakfast so I could warm up, and came back to a much warmer house, and now the cat is sleeping comfortably. I turned the thermostat down to 65, so hopefully we won’t need it again any time soon.

    I heard at work yesterday that we are supposed to get snow in October and it is supposed to stay. NO!


    in reply to: Hubby did it, NOT ME !!!! #5284438 Report Abuse
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    I got up this morning and turned our furnace on just to get rid of the chill. It had to be down in the 50s in here. The temp. outside was 38º; okay I warmed the place up, but now it is turned way down to 65º. Hubby agreed and so did the cat!


    in reply to: Need help with the amarlysis – #5284430 Report Abuse
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    I feed mine the Miracle Gro for blooming plants even after they’re done blooming. This helps them have enough food for forming the future new stalks and blooms.

    I have found that you have to buy some of this fertilizer now, because most places don’t carry the fertilizer for blooming plants during the winter. They seem to not realize that people have plants blooming year round, especially at Christmas time and after.


    in reply to: Saturday in the Midwest #5284417 Report Abuse
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    Hi All, I have to work this weekend, but I already know we have a full staff to work. One aide wants to work with me and signed up to work my weekend; she came and told me she will be with me. It really helps when you have people who WANT to work with you as opposed to ones who write their names down on the paper and then avoid you the whole shift; this would be the witch and the _itch. If I get only the _itch to work with, she will give me snotty replies to questions I ask or just acts like a snot the whole shift. I have no clue why she writes her name down if she dislikes me so much. I can assure you, I have NEVER done anything to this person (but she is pushing it right now). I think it comes from what the witch has said to her about me. If I wanted to me NASTY, I could have had her in the office numerous times and possibly fired for how she has handled some of our residents. She also works as an aide at the hospital; I hope she doesn’t act like this over there. The aide that wants to work with me has two little kids and a DH that can’t work due to a back injury. She wants to be full time, but they won’t let her have the days I work so she can work with me. She wants to switch her weekend to work, to the same as mine, so we can work together, not her getting left holding the bag alone like last weekend. She wants Wednesday off because that is the only day her son has off from school. She might have to just deal with not having it off. She has all morning and up to 1:45 to spend with him, so she might just have to give in and work the Wednesdays. Sometimes you have to make concessions and give in to get most of what you want.

    It was 38º this morning. I did bring one hanging basket in just in case it got lower than was predicted. It was the biggest of the Lofos; I think I have three cuttings that have rooted, but not sure. If it had gotten to freezing most stuff would have been dead as everything was so wet from the sprinkling all day long. We did break down and turn the furnace on. It must have been in the 50s in here. I had pants and a long sleeved shirt on and was still cold. We went out to breakfast and that warmed me up. By the time we got back the house was much warmer. I actually turned the furnace temp. down to 65 and it finally shut off. I think the poor old cat was even cold. She is sacked out in her bed now.

    Snow, I hear you on the suicides and deaths in accidents. We just had a 13 yr. old girl commit suicide. They are checking for some deleted phone texts, as she was being bullied. We lost a 56 yr. old guy to a motorcycle accident and his wife injured when a pickup pulled out in front of their motorcycles, and then a week later a lady lost control of her motorcycle turning into a private drive and died from her injuries, but she wasn’t from around here. So many have been mentioning having to deal with distracted drivers these days.

    Lair, I’m glad Tim’s mood has improved. Job improvements and not having to move may be helping him.

    Carol, I hope you can deal with the stresses of college kids. Sometimes they just make you shake your head and say, “What?” Been there with my son. I hope the car issues can be less expensive ones and maybe easy fixes.

    Leroy, Lucky you to have a short day.

    Sandy, Stay warm. You might want to be asking your dr. about burning wood and some of your breathing issues. Soot and smoke might make them worse or aggravate them. Do some asking before winter really gets here.

    Just remembered I need to go to the drugstore, so see you all later.


    in reply to: Need iIdeas for a 50th anniversary party #5284204 Report Abuse
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    This depends on if they are really close friends or not; how about an invitation to go out to eat. BUT, you pick them up, and take them to the place you are eating. Don’t make them go alone, take them. Maybe even provide a single flower for each to wear when you pick them up.

    Maybe get a simple cake decorated for their anniversary and then go visit them and take the cake, or have them come visit you and surprise them with the cake. Enjoy their company

     


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