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  • in reply to: New granddaughter #5382692 Report Abuse
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    Congratulations to the new mom & dad and also to you and your hubby.


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    I wouldn’t be so quick to give up any share of custody or allow visitation without supervision. He knows NOTHING about taking care of this child and is a perfect stranger to her. He needs to first prove that he is mentally and financially sound. He needs supervised visits just to see if he is even fit to be around this little girl. No amount of child support is worth mental or physical damage that he might do to her when she is in his care. If you found out later that he molested your grandbaby, would giving him visitation rights be worth it? The support he has to pay no matter what, if you can get it.

    My DH’s nephew had joint custody with the mom of his two boys that he lived with years ago. He is married to a great gal now. Nephew is dad to this other woman’s 2 youngest boys, but considered her other son to be like his own. He even wanted to adopt him. He didn’t know it but she had told all sorts of lies about him to the school and other places. She took off with the oldest boy’s biological dad and their son plus nephew’s 2 sons. He went to get them for his weekend visitation, and they were GONE, POOF!! He had no idea when she took off with them, where they went, or how they were being treated. He didn’t know about the other guy until after the fact, and his family won’t give him any help either. This woman now has federal warrants out for her arrest and it don’t have anything to do with taking these boys. I said she lied to other people. Nephew went to the school to get pictures of the boys. They wanted to create a flyer to put up to help search for the boys. The school wouldn’t give him any help because she had lied to them and said he was not to have contact with them and they couldn’t give out any information on the boys. They finally figured it out that they had been gone a week before he knew they were missing. She must have left right after he brought them back from their last visit with their dad. They’d been gone for about 2 wks. before they finally found out any info on what happened. His new wife is the one that created the flyers and also got on Facebook to try to get info and help to find them.

    Hubby told me a few days ago that apparently the hunch was right about her going to Florida with the kids. We are in NE Iowa, so she crossed many state lines after she left. Nephew had found out that she has relatives down in Florida, but didn’t know if she went there. He can’t afford the $50K for 2 lawyers to get these kids back, one for Iowa and one for Florida. He’s had back issues and surgery years ago, and recently hurt his back again shoveling snow, so he wasn’t working. You would think with a federal warrant that the police would get involved, nope.

    Back to your grandbaby: Even if the biological dad doesn’t do anything, how can you know? Tell your DD to think careful before she goes down that slippery slope. Your grandbaby’s mental well being should be first priority. DNA doesn’t make you daddy, only a sperm donor.

    We also had a niece die at age 31. The older people on the board may remember that. She was only married to her DH for a year. Her DH had been ‘dad’ to her DD for over 8 years. The biological dad rarely did anything with his DD and stood her up many times. When the mom got sick and even before she passed away he was already making plans to take his daughter away from the step dad. We all knew why he suddenly wanted his daughter. As her guardian, he would get to collect his DD’s monthly social security check from her mom’s death. There wasn’t any paperwork in place saying stepdad should get custody of her. He had to go to court and fight to get custody of her. We all talked to this devastated, scared 14 year old. We finally convinced her to talk to the judge and tell her side about where she wanted to be and why. She told the judge how terrible it was to be forced to stay at her dad’s place during the court battle; how his ‘convenient’ fiance treated her and those that stayed with her; that she never stayed there alone because she was scared of them. She always took a school friend or cousin, so they could verify that what she said was true. Her step dad won custody. She got to stay living with her step brother, and her ‘dad’ in the home she had always known. Her step dad never touched her money. He put it all away in a sav. acct. for her to go to college. She became an LPN this past June and is now working for her RN. Again, sperm doesn’t make you a dad.


    in reply to: Friday in Mid-West 3/27 #5382485 Report Abuse
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    I started this at 9:30 this morning, so it’s taken me this long to get it done. Dinner is already done and dishes washed. Where did the time go.

    Hi All, I fell asleep on the couch last night and didn’t wake up until 5:30 this morning. I just got up long enough to shut off the TV and touch lamp, laid back down on the couch and went back to sleep. I figured no point in going to bed then. I didn’t wake up again until after 9. I didn’t get up to go to the bathroom or hear the cat. I wonder if all that cold air on our long walk did that?

    I’m on my second cup of ‘that’s not coffee’ (Lair). They apparently changed how they make this instant coffee right along with giving it a new package. I use half of what I used to use before.

    It is Friday, so no meat today. I made tuna casserole for dinner; the supper menu is up in the air. (tuna casserole is: 2 cups macaroni that has been cooked, drained, and still hot, can of cr. of celery soup, sm. can of peas, 9 oz. can of tuna drained, and 2 cups crushed potato chips to put in and on top and then baked for 1/2 hr. The is the recipe I got from my MIL, so it is 35 yrs. old! DH likes it. I’ve varied it and used chicken and cr. chick soup and mixed veggies, still good.

    It is sunny but cold here today, 34º with wind. I forgot to mention that by the time we got home yesterday it was 32º with a stiff wind in our faces. Thank goodness we went in winter coats, gloves, and I had my ear muffs and my hood. The purpose of going across the street and eating at Subway was to warm up after our 2.5 hrs. of test driving vehicles, and to get fueled up for the nasty, cold walk home.

    DH and I both drove the Traverse. It was nice but neither of us ‘loved’ it. It wasn’t that great of a ride, noisy, and didn’t seem to shift right (according to DH). It also had a chipped windshield (2 smalls side by side on passenger side) that the salesman didn’t know about. Repairable but we just DON’T need that big a vehicle. This is supposed to be MY VEHICLE, so if MARY don’t love it, it isn’t coming home with us. I haven’t agreed to anything yet.

    The salesman, Mike, is doing a search to see if he can find the package/color I wanted, but I also wanted to see the other cars they had in the sunlight. I was the only one who drove the new brown Impala LTZ, but I didn’t like the interior color. When we stopped at the stop light there was a pronounced vibration in the steering wheel. I put hubby’s hand on the wheel and he felt it also, so it wasn’t just me. This was a brand new car, so I am NOT going to live with a vibration in the steering wheel. (salesman said it might need adjustments-it’s brand new-it shouldn’t need adj.) DH told the salesman about that also. Like I said, if MARY isn’t happy, it ain’t going home with her.

    There isn’t any improvement in gas milage, but all the extra perks are very nice. (for a NICE PRICE) The doors are really quiet when you shut them, so that was a plus. I would be going from an 11 to a 15. The fact that this new car’s back seats fold down and the trunk area becomes gigantic is one of it’s big focal points for me. It has a cargo net across the back to hold groceries in place with a remote open/close trunk. The brown one I drove was equipped with a camera security sensor to warn you if you cross the center line, or ditch side line (gotta have a painted line tho), warning if you are backing up and someone drives behind you, someone is coming up beside you in your blind spot. There is a computer screen on dash to see what’s behind you as you’re backing up. If you subscribe to OnStar you can also have your own WIFI hotspot and GPS that shows you maps on your screen. The satellite signals would be better than a smartphone and you never lose service. You get 3 mo. free and then gotta subscribe to OnStar on your own. This would help if we go on a trip. Oh, you can also get your cell phone call to come through the computer screen/steering wheel buttons. Okay, enough about a car I may/may not buy.

    I gotta pay the income taxes first; yup, that’s a hefty ticket item that hasn’t been paid yet. I also have to find some new health insurance for me, so the car is on a side burner right now.

    Lair, These days you tell the dealer what you want and THEY do an online search to find what you want at some other dealership. (they have connections) They can call and ask for specifics on the car to make sure you get what you want or close to it. The dealership goes in a swap vehicle and gets it for you or has it shipped to you. I did that with my Grand Am in 2000. They didn’t have the color I wanted but found it in Grayslake, Ill. They did a car swap with that dealership. I didn’t get everything I wanted, but that turned out to be a GOOD thing. DD and her dad both did online searches for the kind/color of car DD wanted and found a car online at an out-of-state dealership’s web page. It ended up to be the exact same car the dealership got for her. They both had the same vin # for the cars they each found, so they knew it was the same car the dealership had found. They both knew the price at the original dealership, so she knew what she needed to be paying for it.

    Marilyn, Take the Aleve if you can tolerate it. It helps with pain and swelling and is a GOOD thing. When I had my right-hand pain, they told me to take Aleve twice a day for 7 days. Those first two pills made it possible for me to go to work that day. This was before I started getting the shots in my wrist. I was ready to quit that day.

     

    Leroy, Hope you’re completely better soon.

    Carol, Don’t understand your auction, but glad you had a good time.

    Snow, Brr, hope it’s not the weather were gonna get.

    Hope everyone is doing okay.

     

     

     

     

     


    in reply to: DH update…………Janet #5382483 Report Abuse
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    I’m glad the surgery went so well.

    OXYGEN, USE IT! I can’t stress that enough. Lack of oxygen and those levels getting under 90 are not good. I worked in a nursing home and people who have levels like that have poor balance, no energy, and get disoriented. They use bad judgement and can fall easily. If he has COPD, the oxygen use will help slow the progression of the disease.


    in reply to: Thursday in Mid-west #5381938 Report Abuse
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    Hi All, I was here and read this morning and was going to post but DH asked me at 11 if I wanted to go with him on his walk. We started out walking west and it was 37º with a strong cold wind. We basically walked in a big circle sort of and came back around and ended up going through the car dealership. DANG IT!!! When will we ever learn; we got cornered by a salesman out on the lot. DH and kids are trying to convince me that I need a new car. My car is a 2011 Impala, so it isn’t an old car. There are only TWO things I don’t like about my car. I hate it when you shut the doors because it sounds like you are slamming them. The other is only a winter thing. When it gets down to -20 or lower it gets frost crystals on the side of the dash and on the front door area. They have tried to fix it twice. It’s hard to know if it’s fixed until it’s -20!

    So back to the story: We took out a 2013 Traverse with 34,000+ miles and test drove it. It seats 7. Nope! We went inside and I looked at a BRAND NEW 2015 Chev. Impala LTZ that would only cost $3K more and have only 10 miles on it. I haven’t said yes or no to this. The salesman is looking for this car in a silver topaz metallic (pale light blue) I guess topaz can be blue also. So the walk started at 11 and didn’t end until 3:30. Talk about taking the long way around. We ate dinner at Subway across the street from the dealership before we came home. I’ve dealt with this dealership for 40 years (changed hands and moved locations), so I know them and they know me and they’ve treated me really well! They have always change the oil and serviced my vehicles, so they know what shape they’re in. We’ll see how this all unfolds. I should mention, this car has a HUGE trunk and both back seats fold down, so you have lots of room to haul stuff in the back. We are discussing a vacation this summer and this would come in handy for lots of luggage. I want to see the other cars I looked at today in the sunlight before I decided whether I change my mind on color. I have maroon/red right now, so I don’t really want the same thing I have now.


    in reply to: Just found out my DIL is in labor #5381916 Report Abuse
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    Maybe this is just what your DH needs to hear! I went back and read and saw where you said he saw the 3 yr. old DGD’s face and that’s why he asked for help. Maybe this baby is in a hurry to get here because she needs to help her grandpa get better.

    Hugs and stay calm! Take a deep breath!


    in reply to: I have more and more questions as I get older #5381627 Report Abuse
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    I wonder if you tried vinegar in the final rinse water if that would help. I just did a search on alternative uses for dryer sheets and was AMAZED at what they suggested. WOW! Read this:

    http://www.thriftyfun.com/Alternatives-To-Dryer-Sheets-1.html

    I had a thought; did your water provider do anything to the water source? Some towns shock the water system with chemicals is the bacteria count gets too high. Is there anything that has changed in your home, something new purchased or being used?


    in reply to: Yo Bon. Made you an Easter Dress…take a peak #5381624 Report Abuse
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    You might want to stay away from children.


    in reply to: Prayers For Cliff This Morning – NN8 #5381623 Report Abuse
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    Cliff, Prayer said on your behalf. I’m glad you have family there with you. Prayers for no clots or strokes.

    Angels stand near and guard Cliff from these clots and prevent any stokes from happening. In Jesus name I pray. Amen


    in reply to: I have more and more questions as I get older #5381405 Report Abuse
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    Were you using a powder? If it isn’t rinsed out well enough it can cause a reaction. I got a phone call from DH years ago. He was working road construction and asked me what I washed his jeans in because he was all itchy in the crotch and leg area. I had run out of liquid detergent and used powder until I could get some more. Well, the powder got pitched and never used again.

    Do you suppose they changed the formulation and put something in the detergent that doesn’t agree with your skin? I know the newer detergents don’t take near a much detergent as they used to.

    I did ask a dr. about allergies years ago and he said that most of the time an allergy will show up from something you’ve used for a long time. The more you use it the more your body builds up a resistance to it and eventually takes it to an all out breakout. I didn’t agree with that because I have bought new soap products and started itching right away, so that wasn’t from prolonged use.


    in reply to: I am Running Clean #5381319 Report Abuse
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    Our kitchen sink was running so slow so the one day I took the plunger from the bathroom toilet and used it on the drain. I had run hot water and soap down it and that helped, but I got good suction going with the plunger and just kept moving it up and down and all of a sudden the drain started draining and hasn’t been a problem since. I have no clue what the issue was but that plunger got it moving whatever it was.


    in reply to: Wednesday March 25 2015 in the Midwest #5381127 Report Abuse
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    Sandy, Make sure you use a large drill bit, so the water can drain away properly. I used straight potting soil, but I think maybe I should have maybe mixed in some of the regular composted dirt to help with the moisture intake.

    Did you see the video about mixing the insides of baby diapers in with the soil to give it moisture holding power.

    Hubby just said at dinner time that there was a bunch of sprouted potatoes, but I told him I had no place to plant them right now. I always heard people say to plant potatoes on Good Friday. I know Good Fridays that it was snowing, so not going to even worry about doing that.

    I have seen and heard of people using stacked up tires and straw to grow potatoes in. Never tried either of them. I just did a search on google images and people planted tomatoes, herbs, and flowers in these big buckets.


    in reply to: Wednesday March 25 2015 in the Midwest #5380999 Report Abuse
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    Carol, If the pictures are too small just hold down the control (Ctrl) key and roll your mouse wheel forward. Do the same in reverse to make it smaller again. (Ctrl and roll mouse wheel backwards- smaller)


    in reply to: Wednesday March 25 2015 in the Midwest #5380991 Report Abuse
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    (Sorry this turned into a book!)

    Carol, I slept on the couch yesterday afternoon. I probably fell asleep about 2 and finally got off the couch at 5; I figured I probably wouldn’t sleep again. I can’t wait until I can get outside with NO SNOW and do some yard work. It ended up almost 11 before I crawled into bed. My mind started doing the random roaming again, like the night before, but I jacked it up fast and told Jesus we were skipping the beach tonight, and taking an airplane ride over Alaska (Perl Island). I watched a 4 min. video of that yesterday afternoon, and I don’t remember anything after that. My imaginary walks on the beach with Jesus seems to be what gets my mind out of this “stuff” it goes into. I’ve only ever been on an actual ocean-type beach a few times, but that was one of the most peaceful moment in my life. A beautiful sunset on the beach; the pounding of the waves coming in; the sea gulls singing overhead; the breeze coming in from the Gulf of Mexico. I was on my honeymoon 34 years ago. Gee, now I wish I could go do that again! I might have to push for that this summer.

    As for the potatoes in buckets: Two years ago I had store bought potatoes that sprouted. I cut them into chunks so that each had at least one sprout, but many had several. I let them scab up. I took 5/6 cat litter buckets and drilled holes in the bottom. I put about 4-5 inches of well packed potting soil (Miracle Grow) on the bottom. I had a lot of sprouted seed potatoes, so I put one in each corner and one in the middle. I put more soil on top and watered it good. Some already had really big shoots about 8″ long, so I added enough to cover the shoots by a couple inches. I think they were all about 2/3 full of wet potting soil when I got done. I let the sprouts grow their plants. Once the plants got above the top of the bucket I added soil until the bucket was about 2″ from the top; you gotta leave room for watering. That potting soil dries out really fast I learned, so I had to make sure that I kept them watered really good. The plants died out really early the year before. I don’t think I realized how dry potting soil gets and the amount of water a potato plant draws. I thought they would rot if I over watered them, but the plants dried out due to under watering. I do get potatoes but it’s not a lot. The potatoes all form and grow near where you plant them on the bottom of the bucket. I do have to tie up the potato plants because they fall over otherwise. (After the fact: I think a tomato cage in the bucket when first planted would have worked better) I lined the buckets up next to the garage and screwed hooks into the wooden boards to hook string to so I could tie them up. I think using the Miracle Grow potting soil makes the potato grow way too much green plant up top but you do get potatoes down low, but not a lot and not real huge. I never grew potatoes before, so what do I know about potatoes or their size. You gotta look beyond the flower pot to see the buckets along the garage wall. I didn’t take any pictures of these potatoes but they are in the background of some pictures I took. The first was May 9. I have one from June 9 and they were a foot above the top of the bucket.

    July 23 You gotta look at right under the garage door to see the end potato plant pot. They were getting so out of control by then and pushing 3 feet tall.

    Aug. 11 they were still falling over and should have been tied up better. Gotta look beyond the potted Hibiscus. I eventually cut the plants way back and just left them enough green to keep growing. Maybe I should have been doing that right from the start and the potatoes would have been bigger. I wasn’t growing these for food per say, and didn’t have high expectations, but it was fun to do and did produce a combined total of about 2/3 of a bucket of potatoes. I’m not going to do it this year because my crocus are in those buckets right now. We are thinking of taking a vacation this summer and I don’t want to have to worry about all my plants drying out while I’m gone.

    Lair, Did you black out from lack of oxygen? I know your settings are high but maybe you should consult your dr. about this.


    in reply to: Wednesday March 25 2015 in the Midwest #5380933 Report Abuse
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    Hi All, I’m up and had 8 hrs. of sleep and having my coffee and a strawberry/cream cheese Toaster Strudel. Yum! I have a dentist appt. late morning, so I’m gonna put dinner in the oven before I leave, so we can eat whenever I get home. We had wonderful rain/ice/snow yesterday and last night, so now maybe we can get over this hump and move on to better stuff now. Third snow on a robin’s tail for me!

    I’m gonna go read some more and enjoy my coffee.


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